How Cindy #redefinedcourage

I want to tell you a story about a girl:

 

She was an average student, probably a little above average, but nothing spectacular. She had no specific athletic abilities although she did play the piano pretty good. She had some awful boyfriends in high school and while she sat with the “popular” kids at lunch she struggled wondering if she really fit into that group and if they were just “letting” her sit there or if they really “wanted” her to sit there. She would hear the weekend stories of the others who sat at that lunch table – the parties, the lunches and that lead her to believe even more that while they “allowed” her to sit at that table they didn’t really “want her to be there” – she thought maybe she wasn’t pretty enough.

 

During her first job after high school she worked on an all male paving crew – paving roads and was terminated from that job because she was a “distraction.” Her first year of college she had a 1.6 GPA in psychology and was on academic probation – she didn’t think she was smart. In fact what she was is ADHD and almost kicked out of school. When she started college she hadn’t declared her major so she had to pick a department to transfer into. When she went to ask for the transfer the dean of the college laughed at her. Many of her friends told her she wouldn’t be successful transferring into “that” college. Her guy friends told her it would be too hard for her.

 

A few years later her car was repossessed. She got a DWI and moved every few days between her parents’ house and her friends’ houses because she couldn’t afford an apartment on her own. She filed bankruptcy. She tried to start 10 different businesses and didn’t succeed at 9. I mean is this not an awful state of affairs?

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But, now I have succeeded. There were a few pivotal moments in my story that I want to share with you! Because sometimes – when you don’t believe in yourself all it takes is someone else who does believe or who will give you a chance. Maybe that someone is yourself and maybe that someone is someone else – it doesn’t matter though.

 

The Dean gave me a chance at engineering because I told him I was good at Calculus. Was I really good at Calculus? Well I believed I was. I didn’t know if I was going to be good at engineering so I failed C++, I failed Chem 102, I got a D in statics. BUT I got a B in thermodynamics. Things were looking up. (this is where you’re supposed to laugh) I finally got a B. I believed I was close to finding my breakthrough so I took all ME classes and made the Dean’s List. From then on I almost always made the Dean’s list.

Today I have successfully maneuvered 7 rental properties, got my Masters of Administration with an emphasis in project management, the Project Management Professional certification, my real estate license and have a net worth of $1.3M and growing. So the point of all of this – it doesn’t matter what your track record is, it doesn’t matter what your history is. What matters is your mindset and belief. This goes back to wanting to be “Her.” Now that you know my history no one wants to be “me” you want to be what I have become, but the truth is you can become anyone you want to be.

 

Practical Steps to Overcome:

1.       Believe in yourself. Just because you have a failure or three doesn’t mean you give up, not on what you failed at or anything else. You have accomplished big things in the past and you will continue to accomplish in the future. Failure is merely a lesson you must learn on your path to greatness.

2.       Success doesn’t look like a straight line. At the beginning you will think nothing is happening, but keep going. That is called the valley of disappointment when most people give up. It can take 18-24 months for you to really understand a new concept, to get that business off the ground and running. This is the time when most people quit – right before they’ve made huge progress.

3.       Always have a savings account, even when you think you don’t need one. We only needed one salary to live on, had health savings account, depending savings account, life insurance, health insurance. Then, the pipes under my house started cracking. It was a $30,000 job insurance didn’t cover. I learned from that to have a savings account even when I didn’t think I needed one.

4.       Read lots of books about how to have a better life, be a better person, give back. A few of my favorites: The Two Income Trap, The Secret, The Automatic Millionaire.

5.       Surround yourself with positive people who are going places. You become like the 5 people you spend the most time with.

6.       If you’re going to make up stuff in your head, make it up good!

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